Seven, seven, o-eight

My wife, youngest son and I saw "Wall-E" yesterday. Nothin' like a good Pixar movie to lift the spirits! I am not a movie person normally but this one was enjoyable and there are a couple others out, or about to be out, that I'm interested in - super-hero stuff ("The Dark Knight," "Hancock") and spy stuff (James Bond).

Independence Day After Eve

It's July 5 so hope everyone had a good 4th. It was rainy, rainy here. Today's sunny, not too hot but pretty humid.

Finally, on Thursday, I had my much needed "Friday" - in other words, a day without hearings or trials. Although I still have much paperwork to do, and have brought a good bit of it home with me this weekend which I have yet to start on here, I did get quite a bit done on July 3 at the office. And in case you're wondering if I deserved a day like that - I was in Court from 8:30 a.m. - 11:30 p.m. Wednesday! Tuesday was a more normal day - solid hearings from about 8:30 - 5:00 with a lunch break - but Monday was a mega-domestic violence day, in Court until at least 7:30. Some things about this job I won't miss - like this Wednesday - but still, most things I will miss. Ah well.

Still thinking a lot about the next step, and hearing of new possibilities all the time. You'll be the first to know when I know!

My daughter's three friends from college are visiting for a week starting this weekend, so we've been on a cleaning/repair frenzy. My youngest and I had the pleasure of re-caulking our shower yesterday. The part that took the longest by far was removing the old, yucky, mildewy caulk. A bonding experience in more ways than one (pun intended).

Busy week at work next week and Friday should be fairly free for paperwork except for my dental appointment - at least it's very early in the day, so won't interrupt things too much. My teeth do need cleaned, I drink a lot of coffee (like right now).

I'm attending an abuse-and-neglect seminar at the WVU Law School - my alma mater - July 14 and 15, and a week-long family-law mediation seminar Aug 4-8 at the same location. Getting ready for the future as best I can. Also will be meeting with my successors to get started on scheduling for them - they don't yet have the authority to schedule, so if I don't do it for them they'll start the new year with nothing set for hearing or trial. That would be a big problem in more ways than one - my secretary already has a stack of things that need to be scheduled. Except for domestic violence and a few other things, we're not scheudling anything else for me -we're booked thru mid-November and the rest of the time will be needed to finish things. I'm determined to make the transition smooth and positive and definitely not to leave the Family Court in a shambles.

By the way - my courtroom is not going to be used for the Family Court anymore so I don't have to give up my courtroom to anyone! I've got a copy of the plans for the new space, in the Court House Annex, and I don't like them at all. It's a modern space, not at all like the original Court House space I'm in, and I think will have much less of a "court" feel. Hey! Maybe I'm looking for reasons to feel good about leaving this job - but if that helps me over the hump, so be it. The fact is, there are advantages, and I am looking forward to doing something new, interesting and hopefully helpful to people. Now doesn't that make me sound noble? But I mean it. We'll see what God does. A friend of mine pointed out that it's somewhat frustrating to know that God already knows what's going to happen, but He won't tell us when we want to know! True - but also true that He is the Master of all timing, including when it's time for us to know the next step. Good to know that He does know already and that He can be trusted!

Oh - we have two new family members, cats. Twins. My secretary's neighbor had them and we were just going to get one but as I should have predicted, my wife and daughter and youngest son couldn't bear the thought of separating them. So, I made this deal - we could get both, but I had final say over the names. RIGHT! It's not that I don't like the names, they're fine. Hugo and James. Something to do with "Lost" which members of my family (not me) are addicted to. I think it's probably a great show but I limit my addictions to Survivor and Amazing Race.

Fridays

Well...these are supposed to be the days that I do research and writing and other paperwork, and generally get caught up. Though I did pretty well keeping up during the campaign, there are three kinda big things that are still awaiting final rulings. I've been working on them steadily but since I have to listen to the recordings of all proceedings in each case, it's slow work. To boot, this truly is the first Friday I've had in the office since the election - though some of that admittedly is because of time off I've taken. At any rate! I've gotten some done today but it's frustrating - had a meeting I had to go to downstairs from 11-12:30, a wedding here in a minute, and another meeting out at United Summit Center at 2:00. All these things are worthwhile and important - no problem there - but with this many commitments on what should be an uninterrupted day, it makes it hard to focus on any one task for too long. I did get some done this a.m. before my first meeting and right now, I'm jotting this down during the ten minutes I've set aside to wolf down the lunch I brought. My own new "Haitian Chicken" recipe - not too bad!

An interesting development for me - many of you have told me you've been reading my blog. That's a surprise and not one at the same time. I know that putting stuff on the internet makes it very, very public and that it's out there for "all to see." I also expected that my opponent in the election and/or her people would be reading but the first time that was confirmed for sure - by a rather in-depth discussion with one of her supporters - it sure was a creepy feeling. But I am the one who chose to blog and I'm not sorry about it. I've kinda put it all there for anyone to see me, warts and all, and if they don't like it I'm sorry but there's not a whole lot I can do.

Some of you have told me that you tried to get in but you were blocked out - sorry about that. I closed access for a short period of time to review what I'd written, to correct some misspellings, etc., and inadvertently left it closed for longer than I'd intended. So we're back "online" now.

My wife and youngest are out of town, at a Christian music festival in Pa., and will be back Sun. That leaves me and my #3 son and my daughter at home - we're all going to a wedding in Huntington tomorrow. I'm not that fond of weddings normally but these are two old Camp kids so it should be fun. Speaking of weddings - my #1 son's third anniversary was this past Tues. and my #2 son's third anniversary is next Tuesday. :) :)

Still lots of thoughts percolating about the future...got to get to the wedding, then back to work for a bit before I take off for Summit Center. Bye for now.

My Last Family Court Conference?

It's been a while since I blogged - a busy time. Spent last week at Camp Cowen with 200 Sr. High aged kids and a bunch of other counselors. My 29th year in a row counseling that camp! God's been good to allow me to go every year and I'm hoping to continue at least till 2015 - that's when my youngest boy will graduate from high school. Maybe longer!

I'm in Charleston right now and am attending our annual Spring Family Court Conference (even though it's summer). This is one of the things I'll miss - frankly, it's fun being with my colleagues. Over the years I've gotten quite close with some of them. Plus, since there are only 35 of us and we have uniquely stressful jobs, we have an affinity - even those of us who might not have much in common otherwise.

I'll be back at Camp a week in July, with my youngest, but before then I'll be attending a two-day abuse-and-neglect conference in Morgantown. I'm also attending the mediation training in Morgantown in August. Preparing for the future...still focusing on doing my own thing job-wise as of the first of the year but in a very controlled way.

The thought of starting a non-profit with focus on youth law issues has crossed my mind. One of our current Family Court Judges started the only such program in West Virginia a few years ago and it's still going strong, in the far southern part of the State. There would be advantages to that format over a private practice, for sure, but also it would be more limiting - will have to think on that one.

It's good to be here in Charleston among friendly folks - and those with whom I can toss around ideas. Also got to have dinner last evening, and to spend several hours, with some of my law school friends who also had some helpful thoughts and suggestions. At least, I feel like I have steady relationships with people who not only care about me but who also are good sources of information.

Tomorrow is six weeks from the election and it feels like a lot longer. I still have six months plus on the bench but I know it will go by quickly. Time is a funny thing -

Home and it's HOT

Home again from Florida - and the heat wave that's hitting the East Coast is here. Oh, did I mention our air conditioning is out? Ah well -

Left Florida yesterday morning and drove (with several stops and not-very-efficient ones to boot) to Beckley - that took until 2 am this morning! But we had a good night's sleep in a nice place and left about 12:30 for Camp Cowen, where we had an enjoyable afternoon visiting friends and most importantly, celebrating the dedication of the wonderful new dining hall there designed by none other than my oldest son, Christopher. Cowen's my favorite place in the world, I was in my element.

Of course, many friends from around the State knew about the election and told me how sorry they are, etc. Me too of course - but I'm more and more getting to the point of thinking more precisely about the future. No great revelations yet -
you'll be the first to know!

I Got Pecked in the Eye by a Bird

The title says it all!

We're in Florida - it's been a great trip, therapy for me for sure. We've enjoyed a great riverfront house with a canoe, manatee right outside our door (sometimes), visiting family, swimming, great weather, and more. We have to leave tomorrow morning but we're stopping at the Orange Shop in Citra on the way out of Florida - that's a special memory for my three oldest boys so now my youngest two will get to join in on the fun of that -- it's just a little shop by the side of the road with amazing fresh-squeezed orange juice and all the Florida trinkets you could think of.

Talked to my secretary and case coordinator today and learned that the rains in our part of West Virginia have been torrential - so doubly glad not to have been home this week!

Back to the title - we were visiting my sister-in-law in Orlando last night and she, to say the least, is a bird person. One of her "teenage" black chickens (not still a chick but not fully grown) was sitting on my shoulder and decided to reach around and peck me in the left eye. That was more than 24 hours ago and yes, it's still somewhat painful but basically OK. The eye is an amazing thing - it heals rather quickly. I've been able to drive, haven't had to take my contact out, etc., so despite some discomfort it seems to be all right.

Heading for West Virginia, but not home, tomorrow. We'll stay in southern W.Va. Friday night and then on Saturday, the dedication of our new Dining Hall at our beloved Camp Cowen is the big event - featuring the principal architect who once again is my son. Yes I'm a proud papa - and I invite you to check it out by going to www.wvbc.org, click on Camp Cowen, click on Dining Hall and you'll see why. I'm counseling at Sr. High Camp starting June 15 (I've done this camp every year since 1981) and can't wait to be part of a camp using the new Alice Randall -

Will sign off for now. A busy week awaits when I get home - hearings, still trying to catch up on paperwork, and thinking, praying, considering more about the future. I've had lots of thoughts this week but won't share them here just yet...to be continued...

Leaving for Florida Tomorrow

Well, now it has been two weeks, and two days. The world is beginning to seem a little brighter - thankfully. Hope this lasts, especially when the days begin winding down toward the end of the term later this year!

We're leaving for Florida tomorrow, in fact about 3:00 p.m. We've rented a neat little riverfront house in Weeki Wachee, Florida, which is fairly close to several relatives. We'll be seeing my father-in-law, my sister-in-law, and a favorite aunt and uncle to my kids. My whole crew will be there - all five of my kids, my two daughters-in-law, and of course my wife and me. We'll miss our dog and my oldest son's two dogs who often travel with us. The dogs loved the beach last summer.

Last Friday, we had our "Quarterly North Central Regional Judicial Summit" which is dinner with a few of us judges from this part of the State. This time we were in Philippi, hosted by Judge Longo, and the whole crowd was present - Judges Culpepper, Born, Fantasia, Longo, and Crislip (me), with several spouses also in attendance. After dinner, we walked up the street to Judge Longo's office and she showed it off. I'd been there several times but none of the others had. We also walked past a really neat old house which had been converted into a bed & breakfast and got a tour from the owners - it was some house. For anyone who knows my wife, that was the highlight of her evening.

Feelings of hopefulness probably come from several sources. Prayer and God's responsive intervention. The support of family and friends. The diversion of work and other activities. Planning for our trip. Looking forward to summer. And, some specific strategies, at least thought strategies. I decided over the weekend, and told my wife, that I had to focus on something I had control over, or at least that I perceive I have control over. Since my focus has been, "What next?," the only job path I have reasonable control over at this time is making a plan to do my own thing, hang out a shingle, which I have said repeatedly I do not want to do. But - it's occurred to me that I might be able to do it in a very controlled way and I even have an idea for something almost unique that might be successful both in terms of income and real help to the public and the court system. I need to run it by a few people to see what they think -

I'm aware of many other potential options, of course. But all of those would require me to be hired by an employer as opposed to "hiring myself." I'm not opposed to a job where I'd be hired and where I'd get a paycheck, a paycheck, a paycheck, with benefits, etc. We'll see what God lays before me, though.

We're not out of the woods yet. I'm getting more and more used to the idea. My staff and I are trying to get back to normal and actually, this week, at least to me, it's beginning to feel normal again being here, doing the work, interacting with my staff, the lawyers, the litigants. I'm going to try hard and focus on doing my job well, serving the public well, making sure my staff is happy, and not leaving this place in a shambles for my two successors. That's the least I can do for the people of Harrison County. Many of whom, by the way, voted for me :)